Here is a short Dads and Daughters self-assessment quiz. It's a quick way to understand how well you're doing as your daughter's father. Answer honestly and add up your score before peeking at the scoring key. If your daughter isn't school-aged, skip the 5 school-related items and subtract 15 points from the scoring key.
THE DAD-Q TEST:
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Hardly Ever
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| 1 | I can name her 3 best friends |
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2
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3
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| 2 | I know my daughter's goals |
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2
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3
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| 3 | I comment on my wife/partner's weight |
3
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2
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1
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| 4 |
I'm physically active with my daughter (shoot hoops, jog, etc.) |
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2
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3
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| 5 | I make dinner for my family |
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2
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3
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| 6 | I talk to my daughter about managing money |
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2
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3
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| 7 | I spend 1/2 hour, 1-on-1with her, doing something we both enjoy. |
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2
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3
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| 8 | I talk to other fathers about raising kids |
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2
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3
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| 9 | I talk to other fathers about raising daughters |
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2
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3
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| 10 | I restrict her activities more than I do/ would for a son |
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2
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1
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| 11 | I talk to my daughter about advertising |
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2
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3
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| 12 | I tell my daughter what her strengths are |
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3
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| 13 | I comment on my daughter's weight |
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2
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1
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| 14 | I know what school project she's working on |
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2
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3
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| 15 | I protest negative media portrayals of girls |
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2
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3
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| 16 | I view pornographic material |
3
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2
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1
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| 17 | I participate in parenting organizations |
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2
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3
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| 18 | I yell at my daughter's mother |
3
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2
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1
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| 19 | I suggest that my daughter go on a diet |
3
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2
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1
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| 20 | I object when others suggest that she go on a diet |
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2
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3
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| 21 | I converse with my daughter, and she does most of the talking |
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3
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| 22 | I know what my daughter is concerned about today |
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2
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3
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| 23 | I know how many student government officers at her school are girls |
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2
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3
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| 24 | I have read her school's sexual harassment policy |
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2
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3
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| 25 | I help boys learn to respect girls |
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2
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3
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| 26 | I tell my daughter stories about my own youth |
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3
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For dads who live AWAY from their daughters |
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Hardly Ever
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| 27 | I initiate contact with her at least 5 times a week |
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3
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| 28 | I ask how she feels transitioning to and from my home |
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| 29 | I demonstrate respect for her mother and stepparent(s) |
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3
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| 30 | I fulfill my visitation and support commitments |
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For dads who live WITH their daughters |
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Sometimes
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Hardly Ever
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| 27 | I volunteer to help with her extracurricular activities |
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2
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3
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| 28 | I take my daughter to school |
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| 29 | I visit my daughter's school during the school day |
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| 30 | I take my daughter to work with me |
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2
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3
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Scoring:
Total Points
If you scored:
30-35: Your relationship with your daughter looks like
it's on very solid ground
36-45: You appear to have a good foundation, but there are places to improve
46-60: You probably need active steps to re-examine your attitudes and learn ways to build deeper respect for each other.
61-90: It's time to consider serious change. Your actions and attitudes may be undermining your daughter.
source: dadsanddaughters.org
David Britton & Lisa Celosse specialize in dealing with issues regarding dads and daughters.
